What do you need today?
You do not have to know which letter you need. Start with the feeling.
I MISS THEM.
LETTER 006I Thought Missing You Meant I Loved You.Sometimes I was missing the moment you made the hurting stop.LETTER 017Distance Is Doing a Lot of Work.I don’t need you back to know I’d still want to hug you.LETTER 022I Remember Exactly Where We Were.There are people you remember by how they left. I remember you as the person who once saw me in the morning light.LETTER 029Some of You, I’d Forgive Tomorrow.I still know the difference between a door I needed to close and a door I wish someone would knock on.
I’M LONELY.
LETTER 018We Didn’t Have a Falling Out. We Just Fell Out.Some relationships don’t end. They become past tense so slowly you don’t notice the grammar changing.LETTER 021We Don’t Talk, But I Know What You Had for Dinner.We went from knowing each other’s secrets to knowing each other’s content.LETTER 027I Thought Leaving Was Supposed to Feel Better.I’m not confusing loneliness with regret.
I WANT THEM BACK.
LETTER 017Distance Is Doing a Lot of Work.I don’t need you back to know I’d still want to hug you.LETTER 022I Remember Exactly Where We Were.There are people you remember by how they left. I remember you as the person who once saw me in the morning light.LETTER 029Some of You, I’d Forgive Tomorrow.I still know the difference between a door I needed to close and a door I wish someone would knock on.
I KNOW I NEED TO LEAVE.
LETTER 002The Subscription I CanceledI got a new phone. A new number. I want some peace.LETTER 007I Could See What You Did to Me.You do not get to be the permanent meaning of any of them.LETTER 011I Knew Better and I Still Went Back.I stopped being ashamed of how many times I went back and started being proud of the time I didn’t.LETTER 026The Room I No Longer Check Into.Recognizing when something isn’t safe anymore — and finally walking away.
I’M TRYING TO FORGIVE.
LETTER 016I Understand Why I Did It. That Doesn’t Make It Okay.I can explain myself. But I don’t get to use the explanation as an eraser.LETTER 024Healing Was Never Going to Be an Eraser.The sentence can stay in the story without getting the final word.LETTER 029Some of You, I’d Forgive Tomorrow.I still know the difference between a door I needed to close and a door I wish someone would knock on.
I NEED TO FEEL LESS CRAZY.
LETTER 003To the People Who Hurt You Without Leaving Bruises.Your voice does not get to live in my head forever. Mine does.LETTER 005You Needed Me to Be the Problem.I can own my reactions without accepting your version of why they happened.LETTER 010I Miss the Person I Was Before I Met You.I didn’t have to become the person I was before you. I had to become someone you had never met.LETTER 023You Knew Before I Did.You didn’t need every detail before deciding I deserved kindness.LETTER 025There Was Nowhere I Felt Safe.Functioning is not the same thing as feeling safe.
I’M ANGRY.
LETTER 003To the People Who Hurt You Without Leaving Bruises.Your voice does not get to live in my head forever. Mine does.LETTER 005You Needed Me to Be the Problem.I can own my reactions without accepting your version of why they happened.LETTER 007I Could See What You Did to Me.You do not get to be the permanent meaning of any of them.LETTER 008You Made Me Apologize for Wanting More.I was working hard because I wanted to build a life I felt safe inside.
I’M READY TO MOVE FORWARD.
LETTER 010I Miss the Person I Was Before I Met You.I didn’t have to become the person I was before you. I had to become someone you had never met.LETTER 024Healing Was Never Going to Be an Eraser.The sentence can stay in the story without getting the final word.LETTER 028Here’s What I Know Now.Twenty-seven letters ago, I had a lot of things I needed you to know. Turns out, I was listening too.
You can feel more than one thing at once.
Pick another mood. Read out of order. Leave when you need to.
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